Optimize Your Marriage by Phil and Susy Downer

"Family is the one place where everyone should feel comfortable about expressing doubts and finding support and solace. By sharing only your strengths you build walls. By sharing weaknesses you build bridges. Rather than being a disgrace, this helps create stronger relationships. Powerful relationships with God and your family will enhance your ability to minister to those around you.

I call it the "love cup." Our goal for building relationships is to strengthen ourselves and those we love with peace, joy, and hope.  We want to walk around liked a cup full of Christ. Bump us and instead of cracking up with anger and resentment, we will spill out understanding and reconciliation." Phil Downer, in Optimize Your Marriage.